Relationship Time!

Well, ladies, I do believe that this post will be for you. Fellas, I'm sorry (not really) but I'm gonna go a bit emotional with this one. That's right, I am talking about my view on relationships. Don't worry you're getting a "sneak peek" into mine. Initiate fangirl squeal!! ...Just kidding.

 But yeah, I'm gonna go out on a limb here and introduce you all to Ian..again.
Handsome, isn't he? (That fedora he's wearing is MINE!.) Hmm...what I should I say about him that I already haven't from that one blog? I guess I can start off with DUDE, he's such a mystery! Even though he "claims" to be easily figured out.

What else? Oh yes, his philosophy with the ladies. He says that he treats women "better than they deserve." (I should know. And for any fella who reads this, good or bad tactic?) That philosophy right there makes a girl feel awesome, then makes one wonder...why make me feel awesome? (My answer? BECAUSE I'M BATMAN!)

Ya know, I can talk about him foreeeever. But, I don't want to. There's a reason why I'm bogging about him. It's to let some of the ladies who feel down and out about relationships know that there is an amazing guy out there. (No, I'm not rubbing it in. Just giving hope.)

There will be that guy who's totally into you and wants to spend as much time with you as possible. He would give anything to make you smile and protect you from all that he can. That guy wants to know just about everything there is to know you. If he's smart, he'll understand the importance of space and be confident that you can totally handle yourself. (Then again, if you're like me then he'll occasionally worry like last time.) Nonetheless, he's someone you'll be happy to bum out with when you're feeling your absolute worst.

And when that guy comes along, do NOT take him for granted. He's been taken for granted before and probably had girls be a complete...bitch. He could have problems with some of the people around him. If worse comes to worse, he could've been cheated on, too.

So, what do I advise? Be yourself and have confidence. Make him feel awesome. Give him a reason to smile (even if you look completely stupid.) Try some of his hobbies. Go out and do new things together. Look nice for him on occasion. Trust me, he'll know that you want to make his day or better yet, change his world.

Being in a relationship is wonderful thing, really. At times there will be adversity-- temptation, disagreements, whatever. But if both of you are willing to stick together, then you'll push through and conquer everything. Or if you prefer the solo life, I'm not stopping ya. Now go out into the world and enjoy it.

If you excuse me, I have lunch and an incredible "relationship" music montage to dive into.

Comments

  1. Amber ScogginsOctober 11, 2013 at 6:22 AM

    Yea, guys that sweet have more than likely been taken for granted in the past. Good advice, haha.

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  2. UnknownOctober 12, 2013 at 9:41 AM

    Awww Zoe, That's so sweet! I could use this advice right now though, I'm kind of floating around a situation.. Lol

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    1. Zoe State of MindOctober 12, 2013 at 5:14 PM

      Well Keisha, ya know you have friends who are willing to give ya the advice you need. All ya gotta do is ask (:

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  3. Hannah Marie:)October 12, 2013 at 5:05 PM

    So I loved this post Zoe!! You are right, there is an incredible guy out there for every incredible girl!! I would not seattle for less and I have to say my husband is pretty freaking amazing!! I got very lucky because I am now tied to this wonderful, goofball of man for life unless death separates us... I will say though he is NOT perfect and can not be my source of hop, meaning, or fulfillment in life, That just simply is not fair to him; to have that much pressure put on him! But that is the beautiful thing, he is wonderful and together we are venturing through this world of mysteries just hanging on for the ride... And love is an exquisite thing! I remember getting married and after a couple of weeks thinking.. "Oh NO! Im not in love with Skipper, that's my husbands name, anymore. So I told him that and he asked why I felt that way and I said because I didn't, at the moment, have the butterflies and "head in the sky" feelings anymore... Being the man he is, he just laughed and told me something I'll never forget! "Love is not a feeling, it's a choice. A choice to get up every morning and no matter what choose to love and lay down your life and selfishness for that person. Not giving up and no matter what you feel love, hate, frustration, infatuation... choosing love, as in the act of love!" It was life changing and I hope everyone can learn that;D

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  4. UnknownOctober 12, 2013 at 6:56 PM

    Nothing gay about this i promise but that really was a great post. You actually gave out great advice. Your posts are always amazing. You are for sure a must read!

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  5. UnknownOctober 13, 2013 at 3:00 PM

    Ian's absolutely right. Guys SHOULD treat the ladies better than deserved. Hrmm.. he's a mystery? I have an explanation :]. (Most) guys minds are very simple and run like a single blinking light. Straight forward, one task at a time. I've been talking someone who's having difficulties with her "man". I"m no Dr Phil, but I think she was diving much deeper than need be and over thinking the smallest of things. With me, and hopefully most guys, honesty and being straight forward is the best way to figure something out. If he's an ass about it, well, he shouldn't be. I'm completely rusty with relationships myself.. I was in a serious one for four years, and it ended abruptly due to unfortunate circumstances.. Heartbreak's a dagger in the chest, and you never know what other people have been through. Forgive me if I've strayed off topic and correct me if I'm wrong. I know I'm outnumbered here! I'm real happy for you Zoe, I hope everything goes well!

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  6. MBKoesterOctober 15, 2013 at 8:50 AM

    Fun times - I enjoyed reading this, and I especially enjoyed your point that boosting up your SO can pay off richly in your relationship. Yes, he is very cute and you sound happy :-)

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